Be Confident Guys and Get Your Woman

WHEN it comes to dating (or even seducing) a woman then confidence is vital.

Women often equate self confidence with the ability to be successful.

Many men believe that women look for successful men because they're likely to make more money- that's simply not true.

Women actually look for successful men because they're more likely to be satisfied. You see a man who is satisfied with himself is less likely to go out looking for someone to satisfy them and are far more stable and less insecure.

And in a relationship that means a man will be less likely to cheat, change jobs frequently or get himself into any number of other compromising situations. Remember, most women are looking for a man who will be their partner as well as their lover.

Us women not only want a partner when it comes to things like companionship, decision-making and finances, but in the bedroom as well. In order to effectively seduce a woman you must make her feel as though you're both equals.

When it comes to confidence it seems there are two kinds of people - those who have it and others who simply don't. However, here is the thing- everyone can feel confident and if you don't feel confident then you have to fake it to get a woman. The more you fake it the more likely you will end up feeling confident as it will become a learned habit.

Take heart in knowing that you are a good person, you are smart, you are funny, you are good at your job and you are loving and considerate and you would make a great partner. 

Be comforted to know that NOT all women are looking for a CEO or brain surgeon. They just want a man who's confident with who he is, what he knows and what he has to offer in a relationship.

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Is there life after infidelity?

WHEN it comes to fixing a relationship after infidelity there is good news and there is bad news. The good news is that no matter how screwed up the relationship is it can be fixed, if you want it bad enough. If there has been forgiveness and both parties are committed 100% to doing whatever it takes to make it work then things can get better.

Both parties have to understand and accept that it will take time and work and they have to be mature enough to admit to some of their own shortcomings. If you are both at that place you have an excellent chance of working things out.

The bad news is that if the problems are too overwhelming and/or both of you are not willing to do the work and find a solution, the odds of fixing a relationship after infidelity go way down. It is not impossible at this point, but it will be so much more difficult.

So, step one would be to honestly assess where you and your partner are now and then where exactly you might be headed. Do some serious soul searching and determine if both of you are mature enough to face up to the issues and stick with it long enough to find a solution
If so, go on to step two. If not, ask yourself why you want to save the relationship. Sometimes love just is not a good enough reason to save a relationship.

If you try to save your relationship with out the help of your partner, it can be very easy to fall into the trap of becoming a door mat to them. If they feel that the hurt is so great that they will not work with you to save the relationship, it is almost a guarantee that they may also try to sabotage all the hard work you are trying to do.

Step two would be to figure out what other problems and issues the two of you are dealing with and what needs to happen to fix them. Do the two of you just seem to have drifted apart? If so, why? What has changed? Do you now have kids and find it harder to really connect with each other? Has one of you taken on a new more stress filled job and is it affecting your home life?

Once you identify what the issues you are having really are then you have a much better chance of dealing with them effectively. Do not let life and it's stresses come between you. This is usually not the real problem in most cases, anyway, it works well as an excuse for bad behaviour though. Figure out the real problems and then work together on a solution.

Sometimes finding someone to help you sort it all out can be nothing short of a miracle. Finding a therapist or counsellor can help. If nothing else, a counsellor can act as a sort of referee so the two of you do not get too upset and start fighting. Nothing will ever get worked out if the fighting continues.

Keep in mind that you can't fix anything until you figure out what is broken. There is no difference between a broken relationship and a broken belt on your car. If you do not diagnose what the problem is, you can't fix your relationship after infidelity.

How many calories do you burn in the bedroom? Find out with the sex calculator

IT'S time to get physical and burn some calories.

Sex has always been a great way to help shed some pounds, and let's face it, getting steamy between the sheets is way more fun than hitting the gym.

And now, thanks to online pharmacy UKMedix.com, you can tell exactly how many calories you burn with their sex calculator.

According to their website for a half-an-hour session up to 150 calories can be burned, which is the equivalent of jogging for 15 minutes.

 Sarah Bailey of UKMedix.com said: "The sex calculator is a fun tool to give users an estimate of the calories burnt during sex sessions.

"Of course, if you’re going to treat this time together like it’s just a work out, your partner may get a bit offended.

"Having said that, some of the skimpy gym clothes could relate quite nicely in the bedroom

"Who knows - this calculator could well inspire a whole new wave of bedroom yogas and acrobats!"

So what are you waiting on? Try it out for yourself!

6 Things That Can Kill Your Sex Drive And What To Do About It

WHEN you are in a long-term relationship you can sometimes find your sex drive slowing down a bit.  

If you are still in the honeymoon period then I'm afraid at some point in your partnership sexy time will take a back seat now and again. It's just natural as life gets in the way.

Here are 6 things that can really affect the fun in the bedroom and what you can do to get your sexy back:

Having children:

If you are lucky enough to have kids then you will know they are a magical gift. However, they kill your sex life. Can you remember the days when you and your partner were carefree and always found time to get between the sheets? Well now you have had a little bundle of joy everything has probably changed. Kids can make you stressed and tired and all that spare time you used to have disappears and that can also have a huge affect on your sexy time. You really have to remember how important it is to make time for each other as a couple without your children being there. Make sure at least once a month you go on a proper date with each other... pack the kids off to grans or a friends for the night and get in the mood for some romance. If you don't make time for each other as a couple and have sex on a regular basis then your relationship will suffer in the long run. 

Getting a Promotion or New Job:

It's an awesome feeling getting promoted at work- finally all the hours you put into your job has finally paid off, but it can also have a detrimental affect on your nocturnal activities. That's because with a promotion or new job comes the stress and as we all know if you are stressed out of your nut then the last thing you want to do is get down and dirty in the bedroom. And the reason sex is far from your mind is because when we are stressed we release more cortisol into our system which is a nasty hormone that suppresses your estrogen and testosterone levels. It's important to work out how to ease or manage your stress levels and remember that it has an effect on your partner too. It's also important for your partner to have patience as you will eventually get used to your new responsibilities and things at work will become easier and your stress levels will become less and you will eventually get your sexy back.

Going on a Diet:

Let's face it going on a diet can make us miserable. If you are eating less food to shed the pounds it can make you grumpy and less likely to be in a sexy mood. And you will be pleased to know that research shows that bad foods such as takeaways and ice-cream are actually good for your bedroom activities- the mere smell of these food can increase the blood flow in a man's penis, helping him get in the mood. The best thing to do is eat more foods that give you energy and to remember that at the weekends you are allowed to have some treats in moderation without it having an effect on your weight loss. Don't let your diet or the way you feel about your body affect your sex life as it just isn't worth it. Us girls are always on a diet but it's important not to obsess over calories and how you look- instead just be careful with what you eat and remember to have fun in the bedroom.

Getting Drunk:

Having too much booze is a total passion killer. For guys too much alcohol can lead to 'brewer's droop' which is a failure to get an erection. For ladies when you are intoxicated your clitoris is less sensitive leaving it less likely to have an orgasm. Also for both men and women drinking more than two units a day can lower your libido. Let's face it- sexy time can be absolutely crap when there is booze involved. Yes a few glasses of vino can make you lose your inhibitions but how many of us know when enough is enough? The best sex you will ever have is when you are sober- trust me. When you are sober and getting sexy you are fully aware of what is happening and you are more sensitive to touch, plus when you are swinging from the chandelier you are less likely to feel sick.  So drink in moderation and watch your sex drive soar.  

Not Exercising:

I dunno about you but exercising is such a chore. However, it does have its plus points in the bedroom. Regular exercise can really boost your sex drive. According to research many men who exercise for an hour, three times a week have improved sexual satisfaction. Also, the fitter you are the more confident you become and the sexier you will feel. If you don't exercise then you can feel sluggish and the weight can creep on and going to bed with your partner can sometimes be the last thing on your mind. If you are not a natural gym bunny just buy a fitness DVD and get some weights for home and exercise in moderation. You will soon feel the difference in how you look and how you feel- and if you feel good you are more likely to jump between the sheets and burn some calories getting down and dirty with your partner.

Watching too Much Porn:

A lot of couples use porn to spark sexy time but it's when you start watching too much of it then that's when the problems can arise in the bedroom. Watching too many adult movies can actually mess with the signals in your brain leading them to be over-stimulated- if this happens too many times then it can actually affect your ability to become aroused. Your sex drive will soon be back to normal if you lay off the adult movies and appreciate the sexiness of your partner instead. 

At some point in our adult lives we will feel our sex drives changing- for a variety of reasons. However, as you can see from the examples above, some problems can be easily fixed and your sexy time will be back on track in no time at all.

5 Signs You Have a Happy Sex Life

MANY couples are often curious about their sex life and how it compares to the sex life of others.

In all honesty, you are able to determine, on your own, if your sex life is good, happy, and healthy.

With that said, there are some common signs that you may want to look for.  These signs, a few of which are outlined below, often signal a happy and healthy sex life.  

Are you receiving the ultimate level of satisfaction?

Sign #1 – You Have a Healthy Relationship

Couples who have a healthy relationship use communication with each other and often.  They are able to let their partners know when something is bothering them. Each partner understands that their relationship involves two fully committed individuals. Couples with happy and healthy sex lives often do not have unrealistic expectations or make excess demands on their partners.

Sign #2 – Experimentation in the Bedroom

Experimenting in the bedroom is another sign that you may have a happy and healthy sex life.  Of course, this does not mean that you and your partner have to become the next big adult movie stars, but experimentation can improve your sex life significantly.It is also important to remember that experimentation comes in a number of different formats. It can be something as simple as having sex at a different time of the day, in a different part of the house, or extended foreplay sessions. Fantasies and fetishes are fun and okay, but only if both parties agree to them.  Be sure to consult with your partner before going “overboard.”

Sign #3 – Sex is Given Freely

In many relationships, especially long-term relationships, sex can be seen as a chore. This isn’t how it should be. Sex should be something that you and your partner want, not a responsibility that needs to be fulfilled. If you and your partner are open to both spontaneously engaging in sex, you may have a happy and healthy sex life. When you have sex because you want to, as opposed to because it is your “job,” maximum benefit and pleasure is achieved.

Sign #4 – Sex Becomes a Regular Part of the Relationship

It is no secret that having an active sexual relationship can be difficult. With raising families, working, and other common duties, sex can often take a back seat. Another sign that you may have a happy and healthy sex life is if you don’t let your day to day responsibilities and duties get in the way of having sex. Regardless of how busy you are, if you still find time to have sex with your partner, you have a healthy sex life. Just be sure to remember that sex doesn’t have to be scheduled.  In fact, spontaneous sex can do wonders for a relationship.

Sign #5 – Sex is more than Just an Act

Contrary to what most people believe, sex is more than just having intercourse.  An important component of having a happy and healthy sex life is that of engaging in foreplay. Foreplay can be something as simple as holding hands or giving a relaxing massage. Love notes, kind gestures, and doing something that your partner may not expect on a daily basis are all easy ways to keep your partner interested in you, both emotionally and physically. You have a healthy and happy sex life when the romance continues on long past intercourse has come to an end.

So, do you have a happy and healthy sex life?  If a number of the above signs describes your relationship with your significant other, there is a good chance that you do.

Even if you have a happy and healthy sex life now, it is important to remember that things may change.  Remember that as time passes, it may be easier to let sex impact your relationship negatively. Be sure to always keep an open line of communication with your partner, especially where sex and their needs are concerned.

4 Easy Ways to Spice Things Up in the Bedroom This Weekend

ARE you in a relationship that seems as if it has stalled in the bedroom? 

If so, your first thought may be to end the relationship. But, what if your relationship is long-term?  What if you are married?  What if you really do love your partner?  What steps should you take then?

When it comes to being unhappy in the bedroom, it is important to know that ending a marriage or a relationship should only be used as a last resort. Instead, you will want to take steps to spice things up.  Doing so may improve more than just your intimacy, but it may do wonders for your relationship in general.

So how should you go about getting the sexy back into your relationship?

Well here are four easy ways that you can try today:

1 – Engage in Foreplay

When you do have sex, what happens?  Do you and your partner get right down to business?  If you do, that may be a huge problem.  Unfortunately, many couples do not realise that intimacy is more than just about having sex.  It is also about having a happy and healthy relationship.  If you rely on sex to make your relationship succeed, there is a very good chance that it will actually fail.

If you and your partner don’t already engage in foreplay, start doing so.  Also, remember that foreplay doesn’t have to start in the bedroom.  Call your partner, send a text message, or leave a note expressing your desires to get intimate with them later on.

2 – Be Spontaneous

When you want to have sex, what do you do?  If you actually take the time to ask your partner if they want to be intimate with you, you may be doing more harm than good.  Asking first can make being intimate seem more like a chore than something that should bring you pleasure.  The next time that you want to move to the bedroom, don’t ask first.  Just lead your partner there.  In fact, who needs a bedroom?

Know that being spontaneous is about more than not talking about sex first.  Ways that you can be spontaneous with your partner is to have sex at a different time, date, or place.  

3 – Talk About Your Fantasies

One of the biggest reasons why couples have problems with sex is because one person isn’t having their desires fulfilled.  If that is the case with you?  Does your partner know what you like or what you want to get out of being intimate?  If not, it is time for you to let them know.

Be sure to talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies and desires.  What would you like to try in the bedroom?  In addition to expressing your wants, needs, and darkest fantasies, be sure to let your partner do the same.  Remember that both of you should walk away from an intimate encounter pleased.

4 – Experiment in the Bedroom

Another one of the easy ways that you can spice up things in the bedroom is by experimenting. For starters, you can try a new sex position.  This may not only lead to extra pleasure, but fun and excitement.  Sex toys, romantic or naughty videos, and role playing are other good ideas for experimenting in the bedroom.

Remember that experimenting in the bedroom is a good way to spice up your intimacy, but be sure to use your best judgment.  It may be a wise decision to first discuss making changes with your partner, as you will not want to make him or her feel uncomfortable.

So there you have it!  You know have a few ideas on how you can go about spicing up things in the bedroom.  So what are you waiting for?  Get started today.

Kelly Brook is the celebrity men would most like their partner to look like

GLAMOUR girl Kelly Brook is the celebrity men would most like their partner to look like, a poll has found.

Brook's curvy figure was the number one choice for who they would like their other half to emulate - and the survey found she was also the star women would most like to resemble.

However, the poll also found that a little over half of those who were questioned did not actually want their partner to look like a celebrity at all.

Of the 2000-plus people who took part, 51% of men would not like their partner to emulate any female star and 57% of women were happy with they way they looked.

TV presenter Carol Vorderman, 53, came out as the second choice, in the survey conducted by breast implant manufacturers GC Aesthetics She was placed fourth on the list chosen by women.

Women's own second choice of celebrity looks they aspired to was the washboard abs of Olympic medallist Jessica Ennis, who came third for the men.

Celebrities men most want their partner to look like:

1. Kelly Brook

2. Carol Vorderman

3. Jessica Ennis

4. Helen Mirren

5. Kate Moss

Celebrities women most want to look like:

1. Kelly Brook

2. Jessica Ennis

3. Helen Mirren

4. Carol Vorderman

5 Kate Moss

5 Kim Kardashian