Monday, 4 November 2013

10 Reasons Men Fall Out of Love With Women

Ladies we have all been in a position in our lives where the man we have been dating suddenly turns around and tells us that he no longer wants to be with us.

It's heartbreaking at the time and you are left wondering what the hell happened and what you did wrong.

Well here are ten reasons guys suddenly go off us girls. Take note and make sure you don't fall into any of these traps:

You are too clingy:

Loads of men break up with their girlfriends because they say they were too clingy. This could mean you call and text him all the time and he doesn''t want that. Or you want constant attention and cuddles when he just wants to sit and watch the football. You may want to hang out with him and his mates when he just wants a boy's night out. Or you just want to spend all your free time together. To avoid being seen as being too clingy you have to find out what kind of relationship you both want. A lot of couples do all of the above and love that level of contact but that is because they are singing from the same commitment hymn sheet. You have to be both ready for the same level of commitment for the relationship to work.

You are high maintenance:

High maintenance girlfriends are a complete nightmare and one of the most common complaints among men. When you are getting ready for a night out do you take ages? Do you refuse to let him see you with no make-up on? Do you moan about getting your hair wet when the rain comes on? Do you want him to buy you that latest designer handbag you have seen or the latest expensive outfit Kim Kardashian is wearing? Is looking good more important to you than letting your hair down and enjoying yourself? If you answered yes to these questions then you really have to take a good look at yourself because this isn't behaviour that will work well in a good relationship.

The honeymoon period ends:

Every relationship has a honeymoon period where you can't keep your hands off each other and you are completely infatuated with the other person and want to spend every waking moment with them. Well this unfortunately ends for everyone. When the honeymoon period ends then that is when reality kicks in and you begin to see your partner for who they really are- warts and all. When you are in a honeymoon state you don't really see your partner's bad habits but when it ends they suddenly become obvious. Sometimes the bad bits outweigh the good bits and that's when men realise it's time to end it with the girl.

He is no longer attracted to you:

This is a hard fact to deal with but sometimes men fall out of love with women because they are no longer attracted to them. Being attractive to your partner is a big thing in a relationship as it will probably be what you got you both together in the first place. As time goes on attractiveness can fade unfortunately as the person gets to know you better. However, ladies please don't worry if a guy suddenly turns round and says they are no longer attracted to you because that is just down to their opinion. It just means you are not right for them and it doesn't mean men won't be attracted to you in the future.

You have become lazy and complacent:

When you have been in a relationship for some time it is easy to get complacent and a wee bit lazy. A lot of women get a ring on their finger and they automatically think they have made it and they no longer need to try with their man. Sometimes men and women stop putting as much effort into the relationship to keep things fresh. People also have a tendency to let themselves go when the get into a settled relationship ie they put on weight and they stop trying to look as good as they first did when they got together with their partner. It's important to keep the spark alive by trying to maintain a healthy, fun relationship. Remember some of the things you both did when you got together and try them out again.

You have different senses of humour:

Yeah I'm afraid it does matter if you laugh at the same things in life. When you first start a relationship you can cope with the fact that you maybe laugh at different things to your partner but as time goes on it does begin to grate on guys. if you don't laugh at the same jokes, the same comedians or each other then you could be on the road to nowhere. If you want a relationship that lasts longer than a year then you have to be on the same page as your partner.

Being two faced, bitchy moaner:

Men do not like bitchy women who moan their faces off. Being a two-faced bitch is such a turn off for guys. Women like to gossip with each other but many guys just aren't interested when they see their girlfriends behaving like that. Are you one of these girls who will compliment another female to their face and when their back is turned you slag them off to your boyfriend? Not a cool way to behave.

If you are a moaner you might also be in trouble as nobody wants to be in a partnership with someone who is always miserable and moaning about anything and everything. Take a look at yourself and if you think this is you then change the way you act pronto because you could be doing more damage to your relationship than you think.

Sleepless nights:

Sleepless nights really can kill a relationship. If your partner snores or is a restless sleeper it can be an absolute nightmare getting a good nights snooze. Again, when you are in a new relationship it can be tolerated but as time goes on it can really grate on some people. Not getting enough sleep can really change someone's mood and behaviour putting strain on the relationship. Sleepless nights are often sited in divorce papers.

You don't talk enough:

Poor communication between couples is a real relationship killer. You have to be able to open up to one another and talk about good things to get to know each other but also you have to be able to talk about any issues that may arise in your relationship. Not being open and honest with each other can really lead to misunderstandings and so many other problems. If you are with the right person then communication should come naturally.

You don't get on with his family:

Family is incredibly important and if you constantly struggle to get on with his parents and siblings then this can pose problems for many couples. You may have your thoughts about them but if they aren't good then try and keep them to yourself. Men feel really uncomfortable when the people they care about in their lives don't get on. If you don't get on with the in-laws and are always causing friction in the family then he could one day have to make an awkward decision- them or you.

There are many reasons why men and women fall out of love and go their own separate ways but keep in mind some of the points above and they will hopefully help you maintain a good relationship.