Thursday, 22 May 2014

Dirty divorces - new study reveals the lengths exes will go to for victory

A NEW study released shows that more than a third of divorces are acrimonious, while more than 40% of divorcees went after more than they were fairly entitled to.

Many fought for things they didn't even care about, made false promises, deliberately made things difficult for their ex, played the victim and turned others against their ex.

One in ten admit their behaviour during their divorce had a negative impact on their children More than a third of divorces are significantly acrimonious affairs, with a large number of divorcees admitting to fighting dirty and a third admitting to trying to hurt their ex as much as possible because they were suffering.

That's according to new research released, which saw more than 40% of divorcees polled say they fought for more than they were fairly entitled to during their divorce; whilst a third said they did so purely to "get one up" on their ex.

The study also shows the lengths people are prepared to go to in their battle for supremacy, with more than 40% saying they fought for something they didn't even care about.

Despite this, a third said they exaggerated the truth, a quarter deliberately made things difficult for their ex, and one in seven actively tried to embarrass their ex in court.

The same number said they knowingly 'played the victim', and more than one in ten tried to turn others against their ex.

Almost 60% surveyed by Slater & Gordon admit they made decisions during divorce proceedings by letting their heart rule their head, while close to 30% say anger made them fight for more than their fair share of assets, and a quarter custody of the children.

Highlighting the negative effect it can have on families, one in ten said their actions during the divorce caused unnecessary difficulty for their children. The study shows a quarter of divorcees were not prepared to settle and wanted their day in court, while one in eight say they purposely chose an aggressive lawyer.

It's perhaps no surprise then that almost three quarters say their divorce was made harder because of how emotional they or their partner got during proceedings.