BLOGGER TEMPLATES AND TWITTER BACKGROUNDS »

Thursday 1 May 2014

Online Dating Etiquette- How to Get it Right


UNLUCKY in love Katy Perry has revealed she's still single and is looking for love on Tinder.


The Teenage Dreams singer says she loves trawling through the men who have posted profiles on the popular dating app.
 

She said: "I'm really deep on Tinder so I don't have a whole lot of time."
 

The brunette beauty, who recently split up with John Mayer, isn't alone in looking for love online because one in four relationships are now found on dating websites.
 

However, the internet may be a major influence in building new relationships but meeting someone online is very different to meeting a partner in a bar or in the office.
 

If you conduct yourself properly while messaging people online it could earn you good friends and even the love of your life.

Good online dating etiquette is essential if you want to make the right impression and attract the right partner.



Honesty is important:

Truthfully answer the questions asked by the dating site administrator when setting up your profile. Don't make things up about yourself. If you are not a brain surgeon then don't say you are. What if you met a person online that could possibly lead into a relationship? They would surely learn about the things you've made up. If you do tell porkies you will only embarrass yourself in the long run.



Handling rejection:

Online dating allows you to connect with other people by sending emails and messages but if you don't get many responses it can sting a bit. You have to be realistic and realise when dating online you will get knock-backs and you will have to chat to loads of people before you probably speak to someone you actually want to meet. Send as many messages as you like because, according to research, in every three to five messages sent you will usually get at least one response.



How to say No

It's polite to reply to messages sent to you but how do you respond to somebody you are just not interested in? For some people not responding is rude, but actually it's a better way than telling people you don't like them. Just keep in mind that you don't have to take it personally either if you don't receive a reply to a particular message. However, being uninterested doesn't mean you have to be rude. If a person has sent you a nice message then reply and at least let them know that you're not interested. Who knows it could lead to a friendship instead.



Personalise your replies:

When sending replies make sure that they're personalised and not just a standard message you send out to everybody who gets in touch with you. Even if you have too much on your hands respond appropriately. After all, you're dealing with people who have real emotions. If you can't be bothered sending a message to a potential partner then you need to rethink if online dating is actually for you.



Don't get too personal too quickly:

Avoid asking personal questions like: Where do you work? How much money do you earn? Do you own your own home?- especially if it's just the first time you have talked online. If someone persists on asking you this information just tell them that you don't share personal information with people you've just met. If they like you and want to continue chatting to you then they will understand.



Don't be pushy:

Let things take their course. In short, take it slowly and give your friendship enough time to develop. You can't force somebody to meet you and you are not going to find the love of your live and get married in the space of a few weeks. Dating online takes patience as it takes time to search through people's profiles and build bonds on the web. Also, you may have to go on a good few dates before you meet someone you think you would like to have a relationship with. Just relax, stick with it and enjoy the experience.



Be safe:

When meeting face-to-face for the first time you have to be safe. Meet your date in a public place such as a restaurant or bar. Also, protect your privacy and meet them at your chosen venue- never allow them to come to your home on the first few dates. And when you leave them always say goodbye on a positive note and say thank you for meeting up even if there are no sparks during the date.



Let things fade:

If you and your date feel that there seems to be no spark between you then it's okay to gradually stop communicating with them, you can just let things fade away if you like. But, if the person contacts you then explain to them that there is something missing from the relationship and tell them that it's nothing personal but you think you wouldn't make a good match. Always say thank you.



Removing your profile:

If you are already dating somebody you've met online then take your profile down. Some online dating sites will allow you to change your status or hide your profile without cancelling your membership as some people keep their profiles if it's early days in a new relationship. Also, avoid messaging other people while you are dating the one person as it isn't fair on them.



Breaking up:

Online dating experts recommend that for those who have only met the person once or twice then you can break up through email. But if you have been going out on dates more than that then it's probably better to break the news on the phone or if you are brave then do it face-to-face.


Online dating is one of the most lucrative and growing services on the internet and if you do it right then your perfect partner may just be a click of a mouse away.

0 comments: