Tuesday, 10 September 2013

Are You Having Enough Sex?

A SHOCKING investigation carried out by glossy magazine Top Santé has revealed us British women are just not having enough sex.

The Happiness Survey showed 20 per cent of females between 35-55 NEVER have sex. A further 10 percent questioned said they were having sex less than three times a year while a massive 60 percent of women have sex twice a month.

And don't just think it's only divorced or single women who are missing out in the bedroom as over a quarter quizzed admitted to having sex just once every two or three months.

Jane Druker editor of Top Santé magazine said: "The findings were shocking and sad, especially in light of the fact that sex makes us feel good which helps us live longer and it's free!

I think women can feel under pressure to have mind blowing love lives but actually the intimacy of everyday sex is enough – a 'quickie' can give us genuine health benefits and truthfully sex begets more sex ."

Let's face it- sex makes us happy! It's nature's Prozac and a third of the respondents to the survey agreed that regular bedroom activities puts a spring in their step.

If your sex life is needing a bit of a boost as well as your happiness levels then you need to asses whether your sex life needs a makeover.

Here are five signs you should consider: 

Do You Find Sex Boring?
Unfortunately, many couples, especially those in long-term relationships, get to a certain point where sex just isn't fun anymore. Does it seem more like work or a chore to you? Being intimate with your partner should not seem like a responsibly that you are required to fulfil. Instead, it should be fun and exciting.

Do you reject being intimate with your partner? Do you put off going to bed with them in fear of being intimate? If you do, your sex life may need an improvement or a change.

Are You Are Left Unsatisfied?

If and when you do get intimate with your partner, do you achieve maximum pleasure? If not, your sex life may be in serious trouble. This is most often the case with women. Some women find it more difficult to achieve maximum pleasure in the bedroom. But, know that it is possible. You may need to offer suggestions to your partner or guide them. Whatever you do, just be sure to take action right away. A relationship where only one party is pleased, is likely to fail.

Does Sex Feels Like a Responsibility?

As it was previously stated, being intimate with your partner should not seem like work or a responsibility that you must fulfil. If it does it is time for you to change. Be spontaneous. Initiate sex yourself, as opposed to waiting for your partner to do so. Spice up your intimacy by experimenting in the bedroom with a new position or simply just have sex at a different time and place. Whatever approach you do take, be sure to do something. Do not let an otherwise healthy relationship fail because sex is something that you would rather avoid.

Are You Having Sex At All?

To have a good sex life you must first be having sex. Are you? If you are in a relationship, you should be. Whether you get intimate with your partner on a daily basis or even just once a week, this closeness is important to your relationship and not just in the physical sense.

If you are currently not in a relationship, that doesn't mean that you shouldn't have or not get sex. Take action to start feeling wanted, needed, and loved today. This may involve using an online dating website or just visiting a bar with a bunch of your friends.

Is Your Relationship Failing?

Do you and your partner spend most of your time arguing? If so, your relationship may be in serious trouble. Despite arguing about a topic not related to sex, such as money or work, did you know that your lack of intimacy may be to blame? Couples who are happy inside the bedroom are likely to be happy outside of it as well. The two should go hand in hand.

So do you have a happy and healthy sex life? If not, remember that there are a number of steps that you can take to make an improvement.

Get sex and get happy!