Thursday, 13 June 2013

20 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Committing to a Longterm Reltationship

At some stage in our lives we all want a longterm relationship.

We want a partner to share our adventures with and one who will love us no matter what.

The first few years of a relationship are supposed to be happy times filled with laughs and shared moments that create memories for a lifetime. However, relationships take a bit of work to keep them on track and if you are looking for a happy ever after then you have to ask yourself some questions about your partner.

It takes years to make a relationship work. At the very beginning, you should be clear about what you want from your partner and what you think you can do for him/her.

The very thought of being with this same person all your life might frighten you but give yourself time to review things and then decide if they are the right person for you.

Below are 20 questions that you need to ask yourself before getting into a long term relationship:

  1. Are you both compatible? Are you ready to adjust to his/her mindset?

  2. Do you completely trust your partner?

  3. Do you find them sexually attractive?

  4. Do they make you laugh?

  5. Do they support you through difficult times?

  6. Do they treat you how you always dreamed of being treated in a relationship?

  7. Do they take your feelings into consideration when making decisions?

  8. Do they make you feel secure in your relationship?

  9. Does the person you plan to spend your life with acknowledge, appreciate and respect your dreams?

  10. Are you willing to accept his/her family? 

  11. Does your partner accept your family?

  12. Do you feel comfortable enough to reveal your secrets to them?

  13. Is he/she a smothering person in your relationship?

  14. Do you both want to get married?

  15. Will you be able to retain your individual identity even after marriage?

  16. Do you both want kids?

  17. Do you both have similar takes on how you would like to bring your child up?

  18. Will you be having separate bank accounts or a joint account?

  19. How do you plan to manage your finances?

  20. Who will be doing household tasks such as the housework and paying bills?

When answering theses questions you have to be truthful with how you feel about your partner.

If by the end of the questions you aren't happy with the state of your relationship then the biggest question of all is: Should I stay with this person for the rest of my life?