Friday, 21 June 2013

Is There Life After a Break Up? Hell Yes

A break up is horrific. There are no two ways about it. If someone dumps you and you didn't see it coming it can devastate you physically and mentally.

A lot of people find it really difficult to survive after splitting up with their partners. In the weeks and months that follow a break up they will be filled with tears and anxiety. You won't be able to sleep properly and when you finally fall over you will wake in the morning and within five seconds of you opening your eyes you will feel the wave of devastation hit you once again. Each day you will replay in your head ways in which you could have done things differently in the relationship. You will pine after your partner and wish you could just hide away under the duvet.

HOWEVER, there is life after a break up. Almost all of the time a break up signals the way forward for a better relationship and the arrival of someone who IS right for you.

It is natural to feel devastated due to a broken relationship. However, this does not mean that there is nothing left for you to start your life again. There is hope. So do not give up. Surviving a break up may seem to be a tough task for you. It is tough but not impossible. Remember that you had a life and a happy one before your ex entered into your life.

Once you know that that your relationship is over and there are no chances to rebuild it, stop mourning and start living. Crying, mourning and feeling depressed will be normal. 

However, make sure that you do not overdo it.

There are several things that can make you feel better again.

  1. Talk to your friends and family. Talking to them and opening your heart can be really helpful to come out of depression.

  2. Get fit and lose some weight. Feeling good about yourself is the best medicine for a break up. Get a new hair cut or new clothes.

  3. Delete your ex from your phone, Facebook & Twitter accounts. You have to cut ties.

  4. Try and keep busy- go out with friends, go for a walk, throw yourself into work or a hobby.

  5. Don't jump straight into a rebound relationship. It's natural to want to feel loved and wanted by someone but in the long run it is a bad idea as you need time to heal properly.

  6. Cry all you want. Trust me the tears will stop eventually.

  7. Watch self-help DVDs and read positive books like inspiring biographies.

  8. Believe you will find love again because you will. You will meet someone new and it will be better than your last relationship. You just have to allow yourself time to heal and decide exactly what you want from a partnership.

Remember that after all the mourning, crying and sleepless nights, it is finally time to get over with the relationship and the memories associated with it.

You need to devote this time to a lot of other things that make you feel better.

Life after a break up exists but only if you want it to. There are many people who have survived broken relationships and have found their soul-mates.

You can do the same.